Treat the bride & groom’s guests as your own

Treat the bride & groom’s guests as your own. Talk to (your) guests. Step out of the “DJ” box for just a moment to be a host and friend.

Earlier this evening, we’d just finished honouring wedding guests Roy & Olga for their years of marriage. As the following song was playing, I went over to them, off mic, and shook their hands congratulating this Aunt & Uncle of the Bride personally. After some basic chatter, Roy told me about how when he was 16 or 17 (shortly after he’d broken up with an ex-girlfriend) he took Olga out to a dance. The first song they danced to that night was “Smoke Gets In Your Eyes” by the Platters.

I shared that story as way of introducing the song and then invited everyone to join Roy & Olga on the dance floor, to share in a dance that for them, started 52 years ago when they first met.

I’d have never been able to create that memory for them and the other guests if I didn’t take the time to treat them as my guests and go out of my way to talk with them. It was a really great moment that I’m sure they’ll remember from the night.

Treat the bride & groom’s guests as your own. Talk to (your) guests. Step out of the “DJ” box for just a moment to be a host and friend.

Written as originally posted to the CPDJA online Facebook group on August 25, 2013.

Be social, reach out

Be social. Reach out. Network. Be a great guy/gal to everyone you speak with.

A conversation I had with a wedding planner yesterday was propped up in a great way because of a name I shared of a fellow wedding professional out in Toronto. She knew of him. That prompted the conversation to move along really positively.

When they say it’s “who you know”, that can sometimes be true. Another interpretation to that statement though is, if you know “them” on some level or another then a person can assume certain things about you. This can be good or bad, depending on that person’s view of “them”.

As is also sometimes said, “If you want to be a millionaire, surround yourself with millionaires.” That statement too, has a lot more depth to it then it displays on the surface.

Be social. Reach out. Network. Be a great guy/gal. That’s my thought for the day.

Written as originally posted to the CPDJA online Facebook group on August 9, 2013.

Have backup gear

Have backup gear. Think outside of just speakers and lights. If weddings are a priority for you, what else might be considered backup gear?

The backup gear in this case was a small little piece of fabric. Typically, a piece of fabric worn on the leg of a bride during her wedding day.

After participation was requested of her guests for the garter removal & toss, the bride looked at me with horror as she realized the garter that she’d carefully selected and ordered from Etsy wasn’t actually on her leg as she’d thought. It was still at her Mom & Dad’s place in a dresser drawer.

Moments later… I discretely stuffed my backup garter into her hand and suggested she slip quickly into the kitchen and put it on. Two days later, she gave me the garter she’d ordered from Etsy with the suggestion that I keep it for the next bride who forgets hers. She also thanked me for making the moment happen without anyone else knowing what went on.

Have backup gear. Think outside of just speakers and lights. If weddings are a priority for you, what else might be considered backup gear?

Written as originally posted to the CPDJA online Facebook group on August 12, 2013.

Searching outside for inspiration

If you want to experience growth unique to your peers, search outside our immediate industry for inspiration.

Sean Low’s blog post from yesterday shared the following (among many other wise words):

“What you do from the moment a client contacts you until the project is finished matters. Everything from how you answer the phone, to what your contract says, to how you set your deliverable schedule. Details, details, details. Why? To identify each moment for what it is and to let your client know the value they are receiving for that moment. Too many creative business owners think process is about figuring out how to get to the end. It is not.”

It would seem like I’m a paid spokesman (I’m not) but the opportunity to listen to Sean speak is coming right to your front door (if you live out East, Toronto). The early bird deadline is coming up on September 15th for The Business of Weddings. This is your chance to save yourself a hundred bucks! Save that $100 so that we can all head out to dinner on the Sunday night!

If you want to experience growth unique to your peers, search outside our immediate industry for inspiration.

Written as originally posted to the CPDJA online Facebook group on September 10, 2013.

The biggest influences in 3 (short) years of my life.

This was originally written November 27, 2013 on my Facebook page.  I share it here as a resource to those that might want to know who’ve been the greatest influences to me. Those who’ve taught & inspired me so much. They are many… get ready…

Yesterday excitedly marked the turning of another new page for my adventures with Special Request Weddings.

When I first attended the Mobile Beat DJ Show in Las Vegas back in February 2011, I found myself sitting in an “open house” for the WED Guild®. Not having any idea what it was about, I arrived with an open mind and listened to this guy named Peter Merry talk about… I honestly can’t remember what. What I do remember though, was looking at this “application” that was required if you wanted to earn the title Wedding Entertainment Director®. I felt like a complete rookie. I didn’t manage my business or events with anywhere near the detail or talent level they required. This was going to be a challenge.

After spending an incredible amount of time asking people for reference letters, writing essays, preparing agendas, preparing video footage, fine tuning direction checklists, etc, etc, etc, etc… I am proud to announce, that I now join the amazing family of talented and unique individuals that make up the Wedding Entertainment Directors Guild®! There are now two of us in Canada (Alex in Victoria, myself here in Manitoba), one amazingly talented individual in Australia and the remainder are in the United States.

This is my “Academy Awards” speech because there are some really amazing people out there who’ve given much of their time, talents, patience and determination to me in accomplishing this goal. This is something that can not be attained without a proper support network. Many people played a part, but these are who I’d like to highlight today. And don’t bother cueing up the “walk off music”… you’re going to be here for a while (if for some reason you choose to read right to the end!).

#1… My wife. God only knows that Kathryn is one of the most patient people in this world. I spend far to much time working, in part, because it is also my hobby and something that gives me so much joy. She understands what my goals are and that I am getting closer and closer to reaching them every day. I can not thank her enough.

Kathryn, the beautiful little ladies that we’re raising under our roof together are evidence enough, even though some days it might appear otherwise, that we’re doing something right. Thank you for making the decisions that have brought us to where we are in life. I love you so much dear.

Peter Merry is the founder of the WED Guild® and I think it goes without saying that were it not for what this man has given up in life to make this happen, I might not have ever pushed my work to these new heights. This work that my wedding couples now get to experience the benefit of. Thank you Peter for your insights and knowledge throughout the time we’ve gotten to know each other. I sincerely appreciate our friendship.

Thanking people like Mark & Rebecca Ferrell in a Facebook post just doesn’t seem to be the right thing to do. No one on this earth has had a more positive impact on DJs (and subsequently the people who employ those DJs) then these two people. The passion that lives within the Dreamer (and now also a condo somewhere in the mountains of California) never lets up. It is infectious. It is contagious. It is life giving. Thank you both so very much. You mean so incredibly much to me.

The two people who’ve pushed, prodded, kicked (that one was probably actually Glenn’s wife Miranda), encouraged and never let me rest when it came to putting together my application are Wedding Entertainment Directors®, Jeremy Brech & Glenn Mackay. Jeremy was my official mentor through this application process and was invaluable when it came to my making the most of my final submission. Glenn as well, a colleague who became Australia’s first Wedding Entertainment Director® earlier this year, has become an outstanding friend over the last year and a half and shared insight into the application process was extremely beneficial. Thank you gentlemen. Your wedding couples are very fortunate to be working with you both.

Those who know me in the wedding MC & DJ world will know that I am unrelenting when it comes to encouraging others to attend training and the value of networking. Needless to say, I walk the walk in that regard. Many thanks to Bill HermannJason A. JonesElisabeth Scott Daley and of course, Mark, Rebecca & Peter who’ve helped to inspire me along the way (although I do have sooooooooo much further to go!). There are many others as well, that have impacted what I do in ways they might not quite fully understand. A few of those people would be JimMarie-Louise Ternier (my amazing parents), Erik & Margareth Gommers (an Aunt & Uncle from the Netherlands/Portugal who are 100% responsible for my getting started in this business), Jesh De RoxDavid LouisEd Spencer, and fellow Wedding Entertainment Directors®, Alex Tamas, Mitch TaylorJim Cerone & Randy Bartlett.

The support I also received from some of the amazing wedding vendors I’ve worked with was quite honestly overwhelming. As I called each of these people, telling them about the WED Guild®, what it was about and what was required of me, they were ALL in. Each and every one of them. Without question. I can’t tell you how much that meant to me. Your letters of reference each played an important part in this application. These are the companies and/or the people who answered my call and wrote letters of support, based on the experience we’ve had working together: Party Professionals, Studio 78, Sterling Images, It’s A Love Thing Photography, A Moving Pictures Studio, Amanda Hayward-Draper, Thelma Quinn & Pam Moffat.

Then there are the wedding couples that gave up serious time and put in a lot of effort to write detailed letters of reference that at times, took my breathe away. Alyssa & Kyle, Ashley & Jon, Brittany & Kyle, Cathy & Scott, Jenna & Brad, Jillian & Mike, Kim & Laurie and Mike & Ashleigh… I’m so grateful that somehow our paths decided to cross each others and that you decided to each include me in your amazingly beautiful wedding celebrations. I can’t wait to thank each of you personally for the assistance your letters gave to my application. Special mention was made by my membership committee on the quality of letters that you submitted. Thank you!

If you’ve seriously come this far into this speech… you also deserve a special thanks. For taking the time out of your day, this November 27th or 28th or whenever you read this down the road. I know you could have spent your time far more productively, but it makes me smile to know you cared enough to read this much of what I wrote.

Then there is Bryan Podworny. The man who gives so much. Loves so much. Works so hard. I will never have the ability (but I’m certainly going to be doubling my efforts) to repay him for the impact he’s had on me, my business and my family. It’s entirely because of him, at a DJ meeting in Winnipeg where we first met, that my mind was opened up to the possibility of a DJ caring more then to simply show up, play music and go home. The many hours (quite often late at night, thanks to our patient wives) we’ve spent working together either in person or over the phone in our respective offices have flown by. Time disappears so rapidly when we’re working together. New projects, how we’re each doing things, brainstorming ideas for our couple’s weddings, fine tuning details for a Groom’s Workshop, etc. It’s because of him, that I was introduced to so many things that ended up being the seeds for some of the biggest changes in my life. Thank you my friend, for everything. You are a gift to the wedding couples who choose to work with you. They’re lucky, but not quite as lucky as I’ve been.  Upward and onward… looking forward to the many adventures that lie ahead of us. I know there will be many.

Cheers to everyone who got this far into my text! Put a (smiley face) or “I’m tired now, but congrats!” in the comments below if you actually read this!

You rock.


Thanks for being a friend!

– Dave Ternier :: Master of Ceremonies :: Disc Jockey
– Wedding Entertainment Director®
– Special Request Weddings

— feeling accomplished.